First and foremost let me start out by saying that I am not just a Military Brat, but a lifelong military dependent. My father served over twenty-one years in the armed forces and another twenty in the civil service. I am married to a man who has served thirty years in the navy. Twenty-one of those were spent at sea. No one on God’s green earth, loves their country more than I do. With that said, my son came of age in 2007 and the topic of whether or not he should in list in the military, was broached one night during dinner, and I lost it.
All of my patriotism flew out the window and the mother bear in me bared her massive claws. The love I have for this country runs deep with my bones, but the love I have for my child is insurmountable. The idea of sending him into war, was beyond comprehension, and I told him I forbid it. I told him that “this family had put in their time, we have served our country,” I went on to explain that, “I have spent my life making sacrifices for my county, but sending my child off to war, was where I had to draw the line.” I got up from the table, and yelled back over my shoulder “It’s never going to happen,” before storming out of the room. I needed a moment to clear my head, gather my thoughts, and calm the fear that rose up from the depths of my soul. I just needed to breathe. Because I knew deep in my heart, that if my son did decide to join the armed forces, I would be there to kiss him goodbye, and wish him a fond farewell. I would find that inner strength, that has seen me through, the many times in my life, that I have had to see off, those I love the most, as they left to serve their purpose in this life. A purpose most people will never truly comprehend, a purpose that defines a true “Soldier.” A purpose, they were born to fulfill. A purpose that many, who love a member of the military, have come respect, even though they may not fully understand. A purpose, that as a Military Brat, I know is too strong and unyielding not to be fulfilled. But as a mother, I wish every day, that it was a purpose, we no longer had a need for.